Divine Events and Weddings

In my studies I've found this article to be very informative and detremental to the engaged couple. It helps the newlywed or engaged couple to take the act of marriage seriously. Too many marriages end in divorce this article will put things into perspective aside from marriage counseling which i recommend to anyone who is planning to take that walk down the aisle. You may think you know your partner but when put in a situation where other things are brought to light, you then can understand your mate or realize if this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Shairon Goins

Client Specialist

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In a marriage, the role changes are sometimes obvious, sometimes

subtle. A man goes from being a fiancé, son, and friend to being a

husband, head of the household, and son-in-law. A woman, likewise,

becomes a wife and daughter-in-law and assumes a new and changing

role in the household. Each may also assume the role of parent or

stepparent. With each relationship and role, there are pitfalls and opportunities to make or break a marriage.No two people, no matter how much in love they are, can slide into a marriage without adjustments. Even those couples who have been living together before marriage find they must make adjustments, because marriage is not the same—psychologically—as living together.

A Time of Discovery

The first months, and even years, of marriage should be a time of discovery

and deepening affection, if each partner learns to compromise.

A wife who overlooks the fact that her husband is kind, understanding,

compassionate, and a competent breadwinner to criticize the fact

that he doesn’t clean the sink after shaving should focus on his strong

points. Likewise, the husband who fails to compliment his wife’s cooking

skills or appreciate her skill closing a business deal, but notes the

growing ironing pile, is also focusing on that one minor fault. The

examples just given aren’t offered as an excuse for allowing minor

irritations to continue, but to illustrate the importance of emphasizing

the positive.

Before marriage, each person works to show his or her best side. If a

man or woman were asked to find flaws in the intended marriage

partner, he or she would—in most cases—be hard pressed to do so.

Each person is looking for—and finding—the other’s good points.

At the same time, in courtship, each person works to do those little

things that cause love to grow—a small gift of flowers, a

hug, or a box of chocolates

After the wedding, each person can forget to concentrate on the good

points. Instead of seeing the good, a spouse tends to find and concentrate

on the flaws. The small gifts no longer appear. The hugs are replaced

by cold shoulders. Those who couldn’t wait to be in each

other’s arms sleep back to back, without even a goodnight kiss. It

takes a positive effort to counteract these negative behaviors and to

keep a good marriage going strong.

A wedding is a major financial strain and to avoid problems it is wise to develop a budget. The buget is based on what the couple and other contributors can afford. Being practical and realistic will avoid the problem and embarassment of changing plans to cope with a shortage of funds-or going into debt to finance the affair. Also this reason alone provides the solution of having a wedding planner to micro-manage your pennies so that you don't have to be stressed on whats supposed to be one of the best day of your lives.

A wedding doesn't have to be expensive. We all know money is going in all directions, down payment on your first home, maybe kiddos on the way, wedding preperations, your blending two lives together. To began the budget you should list the categories of importance on your wedding day. Maybe Reception, photographs, flowers, and catering. Then number them by importance. Directly across from the item list he estimated cost. As you plan your wedding the estimate will turn into real numbers that way you won't lose site of your money.

The tips above should put you on the path to staying financially stable and realistic when it comes to planning your big day. Remember its a matter of setting priorities and then working the budget around them.

Shairon Goins

shairon@dewevents.com

MARRIAGE LAWS COLORADO

What is the cost of a marriage license?

About $10.00, although fees may vary from county to county. Cash only is accepted.

What are the residency requirements for Colorado?

You do not have to be a previous or current resident of Colorado to obtain a marriage license that is valid statewide.

What documents are required to apply for a license?

Drivers License, Passport, Visa, Birth Certificate, Military ID, or state issued ID Card and a social security number.

Is there a waiting period from the application date to the date the license is issued?

No, you will receive your license immediately.

Is there a waiting period from the date the license is issued to the date I am allowed to marry?

No, you can marry immediately after receiving your license.

What is the minimum age a man or woman may marry?

You must be 18 years old or older to marry without parental consent.

What if one or both of us is younger than 18?

If either partner is under 18, one parent or legal guardian must be present. You will need a certified copy of your birth certificate. If you are under 16 you cannot marry without a court order.

Are blood tests and physical exams required?

No blood test or physical exam is required.

How long does a marriage license remain valid once it's been issued?

30 days from the date it is issued.

What if one or both partners have been divorced or have had a spouse die?

The date of divorce or date of spouse's death must be provided. Bring a certified copy of the divorce decree or death certificate.

COUNTY CLERK OFFICES

Adams County Clerk

450 South Fourth Ave

Brighton, CO 80601

303-654-6020

www.co.adams.co.us

Arapahoe County Clerk 5334 South Prince

Littleton, CO 80166

303-795-4520

www.co.arapahoe.co.us

Boulder County Clerk

2020 13th St, 2nd Flr.

Boulder, CO 80302

303-441-3516

www.co.boulder.co.us

Denver County Clerk

1437 Bannock, Room 200

Denver, CO 80202

303-640-2628

www.denvergov.org

Douglas County Clerk

P.O. Box 1147

Castle Rock, CO 80104

303-660-7469

www.co.douglas.co.us

El Paso County Clerk & Recorder

200 S. Cascade

Colorado Springs, CO 80901

719-520-6200

http://car.elpasoco.com

Jefferson County Clerk

100 Jefferson County Pkwy

Golden, CO 80419

303-271-8168

www.co.jefferson.co.us

Larimer County Clerk

P.O. Box 1280, 80522

Ft. Collins, CO 80521

970-498-7860

www.co.larimer.co.us

Weld County Clerk

P.O. Box 459

Greeley, CO 80632

970-353-3840

www.co.weld.co.us

Any other questions please email us on the contact us page

~Shairon~

Every wedding is planned within a budget, when funds are tight Brides tend to think they can't create the wedding of their Dreams........ WRONG

For starters having a wedding planner should not be an addition to the budget. The wedding coordinators Goal is to work within the budget in which their services would fit. By the end of the wedding the planner should actually be writing a check back to you for the amount of money saved. Doesn't that sound like your perfect wedding plus extra for the honeymoon.

Whenever you envision your wedding don't downgrade your dreams. Think it out and get it on paper. Do you want to be wild and crazy, sophisticated and contemporary, or simple and traditional? Most weddings stem from the look of the brides dress and colors chosen for the theme.

Now the savings begin. Did you picture a candle lit dinner with mountains of floral arrangements to adorne your table on a reception budget of 600$ for decor. Not likely.... Research alternatives. Here are some we came up with..

This is a picture of an actual wedding we did with lots of dreams and a restricted budget. The Bride was overjoyed with her results

The key is not to dream small but to dream big. With your dreams you pick ut the specifics and look at products that fit your budget. Ultimately you don't have to have the backyard kegger wedding reception with a BBQ, string of lights over the fence, and a karaoke machine DJ. This is your once in a lifetime dream day, (hopefully once in a lifetime ). You don't have to splurge but you do want it to be memorable, tasteful, and the moment you love to reflect on and appreciate.

~Shairon~

Wedding and Event Specialist

(need advice or have questions on your upcoming wedding or event? email me on the contact us page or directly to shairon@dewevents.com)

Here are some wedding superstitions and history that shows us why we use the traditions that we have today.

Get me to the Church..

Walking is thought to be the best way of getting to Church, as there's more chance of spotting lucky omens. Seeing a rainbow, having the sun shine on the Bride and meeting a black cat or a chimney sweep are all lucky.

Bad omens include seeing a pig, hare or lizard running across the road, or spotting an open grave. Make sure the road is clear on Monks or Nuns too, they fortell barreness and a life dependant on charity.

Coming home from Church can be equally hazardous. Tradition dictates the new wife must enter her home by the main door and, to avoid bad luck, must never trip or fall - hence the custom that a bride should be carried over the threshold.

Dressing Up

Until the Nineteen Hundreds Brides hardly ever bought a special Wedding Dress, opting for their best outfit instead. Green was always avoided, as it was though to be unlucky. To say a girl 'had a green gown' also implied that she was of loose morals, because her dress would be grass-stained due to rolling around in the fields! Hence 'Marry in Green, ashamed to be seen'.

White Dresses were made popular by Queen Victoria, who broke the tradition of royals marrying in Silver. Symbolising purity and virginity, white was also thought to ward off evil spirits.

Other traditions are that the bride should never make her own dress, that the final stitch should not be completed until she is departing for the Church and that she should never try on the entire outfit before the day. This was because it was felt dangerous for the Bride to count her chickens. For the same reason, a Bride should never practise signing her new name until it is legally hers, and wedding linen was marked with the Brides maiden rather than married initials. The tradition of Bridesmaids is evolved from the custom of surrounding the Bride with other richly dressed women, in order to confuse evil spirits.

Married in White, you have chosen right

Married in Grey, you will go far away,

Married in Black, you will wish yourself back,

Married in Red, you will wish yourself dead,

Married in Green, ashamed to be seen,

Married in Blue, you will always be true,

Married in Pearl, you will live in a whirl,

Married in Yellow, ashamed of your fellow,

Married in Brown, you will live in the town,

Married in Pink, you spirit will sink.

Reference:  http://www.weddings.co.uk/info/tradsup.htm

When it comes to Weddings, everyone's superstitious. Even if you're the kind of person who walks under ladders on point of principle, or laughs their socks off when friends touch wood, you can bet that, when your wedding day dawns, wild horses couldn't stop you clutching something old and donning something blue. And thats just for starters. We guarantee that you wouldn't dream of seeing your fiance on the morning of the wedding. And will you expect to be carried across the threshold? Of course you will!

But where do these old traditions come from?

Well, some can be traced back to Roman & Anglo Saxon times, some to Victorian rhymes and others to folklore that has been passed down through countless generations.

All of them are to do with bestowing good luck and fertility on the happy couple.

There are so many superstitions and traditions associated with Weddings that its impossible to follow them all. Many have changed over time, while others, thankfully, are very watered-down versions of old customs.

The tradition of tying old shoes to the back of the Couple's car, for example, stems from Tudor times when guests would throw shoes at the Bride & Groom, with great luck being bestowed on them if they or their carriage were hit!

In Anglo Saxon times the Bride was symbolically struck with a shoe by her Groom to establish his authority. Brides would then throw shoes at their bridesmaids to see who would marry next.

Food for Thought

The Wedding Cake was originally lots of little wheat cakes that were broken over the Bride's head to bestow good luck and fertility. Today's three tier Wedding Cake is based on the unusual shape of the spire of Saint Bride's Church in London. Traditionally the newly-weds should make the first cut to signify sharing their life. Every guest than eats a crumb to ensure good luck. And sleeping with a piece under her pillow is said to make a single woman dream of her future husband.

The giving of almond favours is connected with the motto: 'A gift of five almonds represents health, wealth, long life, fertility and happiness' The throwing of confetti, meanwhile is an ancient fertility rite. Handfuls of grain or nuts were traditionally thrown because they are 'life-giving' seeds. In some European countries, eggs are thrown instead.

Hello,

Thank you so much for your interest in Divine Events and Weddings and our new blog. In this blog I will discuss the proper way to arrange or do things for your wedding day. This is to show you our bride or vendor that we have exstensive knowledge in the wedding industry and its practices. It will also offer as an outlet to things you don't quite understand and will go into depth on certain subjects.

Pt 1 will discuss:

-Gifts: The appropriate etiquette for Gifts wether its from the bride or whats expected of guest. It'll also include Symbols of love, Gifts from the groom, remarriage gifts, gifts for parents, Engagement gifts, Shower gifts, Bridal registry, and wedding presents.

-Music including: Ceremony, religious cermonies, civil ceremonies, home weddings, reception and other parties.

-Photography: The formal portrait, types of photography, at the cermony, and videography.

-Flowers: Brides flowers, bridesmaids, mothers, childrens, mens, ceremony flowers, home weddings and flowers for the reception

- Attire: Male children, Female Children, guest attire, parents attire, bridal party attire, bridesmaids, Maid of honor, and of course the Bride. This will also include a section on whats appropriate during the certain time of day.

-Transportation and food will discuss different ways to tote the guest around and what is appropriate for the bride and groom. It'll also include the important aspects in hiring a caterer or an onsite caterer.

Hopefully you can tune in to learn interesting facts and become more knowledgable through the information we provide. Please join as a memeber so that you can be updated on upcoming events and also new topics in the blog.

Shairon Goins

Client Specialist

shairon@dewevents.com

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